8 Last Minute Valentine’s Day Gifts that Money Can’t Buy

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8 Last Minute Valentines Gifts that Money Can’t Buy

Valentines’ day brings visions of red roses, red hearts, diamonds and chocolate. But as the Beatles sang “money can’t buy me love”, so you can show your beloved they are adored by giving one of these 8 suggestions.

1) Give the gift of being heard. Everyone wants to be heard, but fewer know how to listen. When your beloved speaks, stop, listen and be silent until they are done.  When they are finished speaking, let them know you heard them by paraphrasing back what you understood them to say.

2) Be present. Put away the cell phone, computers, ipads and kindles. Take the time to really look at your partner. Let them know what you see and what you love about it.

3) Eye contact.  Look into each other’s eyes. Eye gazing has been shown to produce oxytocin, which is a hormone that encourages bonding.

4) Hug for an extended period of time. This is also a strong oxytocin producer.

5) Kiss. Take the time to truly explore each other’s lips. Experiment with light to intense pressures.

6) Laugh together. Studies show that couples who laugh together have stronger relationships.

7) Write a love letter. Tell him/her what you love about them, best memories, and how you first met. Tell these heartfelt words as if it is your last day together and these are the important things you want your partner to know.

8) Get to know what she/he likes physically. Take turns exploring, massaging and stroking each other’s body. Be honest in what feels best, good or bad. Be open to giving what your partner loves best and also to receiving this gift.

In doing the above, you will prove that you are truly there for your partner.  Rumi said it well in the following poem:

I want to see you.
Know your voice.
Recognize you when you
first come ’round the corner.
Sense your scent when I come
into a room you’ve just left.
Know the lift of your heel,
the glide of your foot.
Become familiar with the way

 you purse your lips

then let them part,
just the slightest bit,
when I lean in to your space
and kiss you.
I want to know the joy
of how you whisper
“more”
Rumi

Sex and Laughter

Sex and Laughter……Jest for the Health of it

Sex and Laughter

Sex and laughter are two of life’s most pleasurable acts, so it should come to no surprise that they have health benefits that are quite similar.
Common benefits of sex and laughter:
1.    It feels good!
2.    Burns Calories.  10-15 minutes of hardy laughter can burn 10-40 calories, depending on a person’s body weight, which could result in 4.4 lbs lost in a year.  According to one study, partner sex doubles your results, burning approx 70 calories in 15 minutes.
3.    Decreases stress therefore reducing cortisol levels in the body.  Cortisol is needed to activate the flight of fight response, which increases heart rate, blood pressure, blood glucose, decreases immunity, slows the GI tract and reduces blood to periphery.  Sustained stress causes high blood pressure, diabetes, poor circulation, makes one more susceptible to sickness and GI distress. By decreasing cortisol, laughter and sex can

A)  Decrease blood pressure

B) Boost immunity

C) Lower glucose levels

D) Regulate GI system

E) Results in relaxation
4.    Improves circulation. Both increase heart rate due to physical exertion.
5.    Increases dopamine and endorphins which produce a natural high and decreases pain perception.
6.    Promotes improved interpersonal relationships. Besides the feel good hormones making you more receptive to being amiable, eye contact and touching can stimulate oxytocin production which promotes bonding.
7.    Activates right side of brain to promote creativity and problem solving.
8.    Makes one look and feel younger.
9.    Orgasm and uncontrollable laughter light up the same areas of the brain as meditation.
10.    They put you in the present moment, which helps relieve worry and anxiety over past or future events.

Reasons to do both
1.    You receive great health benefits for free
2.    You can do alone, with a partner or with as many people as you chose
3.    You don’t have to speak the same language to engage in these activities.  Sex and Laughter are both universal.
4.    There are toys that help you with both

WARNINGS

1.    Excessive laughter can lead to decreased erection
2.    Be safe.  Use protection as indicated

Thoughts to ponder:  Studies show that simulated laughter or orgasm leads to the real thing so      ….”Fake it til you make it!”

Double the benefits by smiling through sex.  Have fun!